Being steady for one week is not the hard part. Staying steady for the years after is.
For parents who want to understand their student well enough to support them for the long haul.
When you understand how your student thinks, and how your own worry shows up, your student feels the difference first.
The job doesn’t end at eighteen.
You do not do the work for them. You do not call out every step. You stay steady, you stay close, and you let them find their own way through, ready to catch them when they fall.
Your student is going to grow up. They are going to become an adult who makes their own decisions.
What that means for you is simple.
Your job is not going to end. It is going to change shape.
Right now, being that steady presence might look like helping them get out the door on time, or staying steady when a semester falls apart. Later, it is going to look different. A call about a job they are not sure about. A hard season in their twenties. A moment they need someone who has always been able to hold steady.
A 2024 Pew Research study found 82% of parents say their adult children come to them for career advice at least sometimes, and 43% say extremely or very often. About a third say the same about physical health and about finances.
The role does not end at eighteen. It just moves.
Pew Research Center, “Parents’ relationship with their young adult children,” January 2024. General population data, not specific to ADHD families.Being that steady presence for them, not just this year but for the long haul, that’s what you’re building toward, isn’t it?
SOMA is not just for this semester. It’s how you learn to stay steady, so you’re ready for whatever comes next, this year or fifteen years from now.
What you understand, they feel.
Your student is building their own skills, and you are still one of the biggest voices in their life.
Even when a coach is in the picture, you shape how they think, what they believe about themselves, and how much pressure they feel.
That influence is a gift. SOMA helps you use it on purpose.
Understanding comes in three layers. You learn how the ADHD brain works, how your student thinks underneath what they say, and what your own thoughts push you to do in the hard moments.
When you understand those layers, your questions get curious instead of urgent. Your student starts to open up, because the conversation feels like support instead of pressure.
When you can hold your own worry without letting it run the conversation, your check-ins start to feel like genuine conversations. Your student gets to borrow your steadiness while they build their own.
Your words carry weight too. The more you speak belief into your student, the more that belief grows into who they become.
Your student is watching how you handle hard things. When they see you work through your own hard moments, it shows them they can do it too.
That is what it means to stay steady. They hold steadier because you do.
What you walk away with.
You understand what is going on underneath.
The late-night text stops feeling like an emergency. You understand what is driving it, so you know which question to ask next.
Your student gets a steadier version of you.
You stay calm through the hard conversation instead of rushing to fix it. Your student feels that steadiness and starts to borrow it.
You get the break.
You have been carrying a lot of it on your own, and that gets heavy.
As your student builds their own skill set, the weight moves onto them, and your house gets quieter.
You get your own steadiness.
In the labs you borrow Tyler’s confidence and her steadiness while yours is still being built.
Across a year it stops being borrowed. It becomes yours, and it holds when things get heavy.
Who this is for.
This is for you if you are parenting a student with ADHD and you have stopped thinking about this semester, and started thinking about the next ten years.
You have already done the crisis semester, and you are not willing to do it again.
You know exactly how that one went. The calls, the portal you kept refreshing, the plan you built in a weekend because there was no time to build it slowly.
You got through it. What you want now is to stop living semester to semester, bracing for the next one.
They are getting closer to leaving, and the clock in your head will not turn off.
Maybe there are two years left. Maybe there are two months. Either way you keep doing the math on how much time you have to teach them what they are going to need.
You do not want to hover. You want whatever time is left to actually count.
You keep swinging between managing everything and backing all the way off.
One week you are on top of it, checking the assignments, sending the reminders. The next week you decide you are enabling them, so you go quiet and let it ride.
Neither one is working, and you can feel that. What you have not had is a third option.
You and your co-parent are not saying the same thing.
One of you thinks they need more room. One of you thinks they need more structure. Your student hears both, and picks whichever one is easier that day.
You are not trying to win the argument. You are trying to get the two of you speaking the same language.
Your student already has a coach, and you do not want to undo that work by accident.
You are paying for the support. You believe in it. You just do not always know what happens in those sessions, so sometimes you say the one thing that pulls against it.
You want to be reinforcing the work instead of competing with it.
You are already thinking past graduation.
You can picture the diploma. What you cannot picture is who you are supposed to be to them at twenty five, or at thirty.
The job does not end when they walk across the stage. You would rather learn the next version of it now than figure it out cold.
If that is you, SOMA was built for you.
There are two places you might be standing right now, and SOMA was built for both.
Maybe your student still leans on you for everything. You are not their parent right now, you are their manager, and you are exhausted from carrying it alone.
This is where that changes. You stop holding it all and start becoming their sounding board instead, and that shift only happens when you build the skill yourself.
Or maybe you are thinking, yes, yes, yes, and I just need someone else to step in. Your student wants nothing to do with you right now, and it feels like the relationship is already gone.
You can get your student a coach, and you are still their parent. Having the skill set to walk them through it is what strengthens that relationship, until it becomes the one you have been looking for.
School of Momming ADHD helps you become the mom who gets to be there for the next thirty years, not just this semester.
How SOMA works.
You have already started. The week you just finished was the starting gate, and SOMA is where that work keeps going for the next year.
Knowledge and practice build a skill. Feedback from someone who understands ADHD is what makes that skill hold up when things get hard.
Tyler learned this on the volleyball court in college. Her coach watched every hit and gave one small piece of feedback at a time, and years later she still knows the right form.
The labs are that coach for you. You bring the real moment, and you leave knowing what to try next.
The vault is open the day you join.
Every coaching video is available to you immediately. Watch them in order if that is how your brain likes it, or go straight to the one that matches the week you are having.
You can watch the same video in March and hear something you did not hear in September.
Labs with Tyler.
Bring the actual thing that happened. The text you did not know how to answer, the grade that just posted, the conversation that went sideways.
You get coached on it in real time, in a room of parents who already understand it.
You set the pace.
There is no schedule to fall behind on. Some months you will be in every lab, and some months you will watch one video at a red light.
Both count. That is what a year is for.
Every Masterclass in your year, as Platinum.
For as long as you are in SOMA, every Navigating ADHD Masterclass we run is yours as Platinum. Platinum is the tier where you bring your real questions and get coached on your home, your child, your situation, by name.
One year. One price.
- Three live labs with Tyler every month, all year
- Full access to the SOMA video library from the day you join
- New coaching videos added throughout the year
- Platinum access to every Navigating ADHD Masterclass held during your year
- A room of parents who are further down the same road
I need to tell you something about steadiness.
That is not a personality trait some parents have and others do not. It is a skill, and it can be taught.
I am 34 years old. I have four kids. I still call my mom. I still call my dad. I still call my in-laws. Your student being independent was never supposed to mean you disappear.
I am standing with a rag on the other side of that glass door, so you can make a change in your life.
You’re still mom. SOMA is where you learn how to stay that, for the long haul.
TylerYou have questions.
Here are the answers.
Why is this for the parent, and not for my student directly?
Because you are the one who is there. You are there at breakfast, in the car, and at nine at night when something falls apart.
A coach gets an hour a week. You get all the rest of it, which makes you the highest leverage person in your student’s life by a wide margin.
SOMA does not replace your student’s coach or their therapist. SOMA equips the person who is already in the house.
Even when your student has a coach, you still shape how they think, what they believe, and the pressure they feel. SOMA helps you use that influence on purpose.
What if my student does not want any part of this?
That is completely fine, and it is far more common than you would think. SOMA never asks your student to show up, log in, or agree to anything.
You are the one doing the work here. What changes is how you respond, what you say when it gets hard, and what you do when they are not okay.
Plenty of students notice the difference at home long before they know anything changed.
Can I join in the middle of the year?
Yes. Your year begins the day you join.
The video library opens immediately, and you are in the very next lab on the calendar.
What happens if I miss a lab this month?
There is always another one. Three labs happen every month, every month of the year.
SOMA is not built on catching up. SOMA is built on coming back.
How is this different from one-on-one coaching?
One-on-one coaching puts a coach directly with your student, week after week, building their systems and their habits with them. SOMA works on you.
The two are not competing. Many SOMA parents have a student in coaching at the same time, and that is exactly when things move fastest.
If you are not sure which one fits your family right now, book a free consultation and we will tell you honestly.
Do I need my spouse or co-parent involved too?
No. One parent in SOMA is enough to change the temperature of a whole house, and plenty of parents join on their own.
If your co-parent does want in, that is even better. Two people running the same playbook will always move faster than one.
