Being their belayer for one week is not the hard part.Staying anchored for the years after is.
For parents who want to be there for the long haul, not just the semester.
You know how to hold steady for a week. Nobody prepares you for the year after that, and the one after that.
The rope doesn’t come off at eighteen.
A belayer doesn’t climb the wall for them. They don’t pick the route or call out every foothold. They stay anchored, keep the rope steady, and trust the climber to find their own way up, ready to catch them if they fall.
Your student is going to grow up. They are going to become an adult who makes their own decisions.
And what that means for you is…
Your job is not going to end. It is going to change shape.
Right now, being their belayer might look like helping them get out the door on time, or staying steady when a semester falls apart. Later, it is going to look different. A call about a job they are not sure about. A hard season in their twenties. A moment they need someone who has always been able to hold the rope steady.
A 2024 Pew Research study found 82% of parents say their adult children come to them for career advice at least sometimes, 43% of them extremely or very often. More than a third say the same about physical health and about finances.
The role does not end at eighteen. It just moves.
Pew Research Center, “Parents’ relationship with their young adult children,” January 2024. General population data, not specific to ADHD families.Being that steady presence for them, not just this year but for the long haul, that’s what you’re building toward, isn’t it?
SOMA is not just for this semester. It’s how you learn to stay anchored, so you’re ready for whichever fall comes next, this year or fifteen years from now.
What you walk away with.
You know what to say when it matters.
The text you do not know how to answer. The grade that posts at eleven at night.
You stop guessing at the response, and you start knowing which question actually opens them up.
You get to be the sounding board they need.
Not the one chasing the assignment. The one they think out loud with when something goes sideways.
That is the shift, and it is the one that lasts.
You get the break.
You have been holding it up alone, and that is exhausting.
The weight moves onto a skill set your student is actually building, and your house gets quieter.
You get your own steadiness.
In the labs you borrow Tyler’s confidence and her steadiness while yours is still being built.
Across a year it stops being borrowed. It becomes yours, and it holds when things get heavy.
Who this is for.
This is for you if you are parenting a student with ADHD and you have stopped thinking about this semester, and started thinking about the next ten years.
You have already done the crisis semester, and you are not willing to do it again.
You know exactly how that one went. The calls, the portal you kept refreshing, the plan you built in a weekend because there was no time to build it slowly.
You got through it. What you want now is to stop living semester to semester, bracing for the next one.
They are getting closer to leaving, and the clock in your head will not turn off.
Maybe there are two years left. Maybe there are two months. Either way you keep doing the math on how much time you have to teach them what they are going to need.
You do not want to hover. You want whatever time is left to actually count.
You keep swinging between managing everything and backing all the way off.
One week you are on top of it, checking the assignments, sending the reminders. The next week you decide you are enabling them, so you go quiet and let it ride.
Neither one is working, and you can feel that. What you have not had is a third option.
You and your co-parent are not saying the same thing.
One of you thinks they need more room. One of you thinks they need more structure. Your student hears both, and picks whichever one is easier that day.
You are not trying to win the argument. You are trying to get the two of you speaking the same language.
Your student already has a coach, and you do not want to undo that work by accident.
You are paying for the support. You believe in it. You just do not always know what happens in those sessions, so sometimes you say the one thing that pulls against it.
You want to be reinforcing the work instead of competing with it.
You are already thinking past graduation.
You can picture the diploma. What you cannot picture is who you are supposed to be to them at twenty five, or at thirty.
The job does not end when they walk across the stage. You would rather learn the next version of it now than figure it out cold.
If that is you, SOMA was built for you.
Here is the truth. There are two versions of where you might be standing right now, and this was built for both.
Maybe your student still leans on you for everything. You are not their parent right now, you are their manager, and you are exhausted from carrying it alone.
This is where that changes. You stop holding it all and start becoming their sounding board instead, and that shift only happens when you build the skill yourself.
Or maybe you are thinking, yes, yes, yes, and I just need someone else to step in. Your student wants nothing to do with you right now, and it feels like the relationship is already gone.
You can get your student a coach, and you are still their parent. Having the skill set to walk them through it is what strengthens that relationship, until it becomes the one you have been looking for.
School of Momming ADHD helps you become the mom who gets to be there for the next thirty years, not just this semester.
How SOMA works.
You have already started. The week you just finished was the starting gate, and SOMA is where that work keeps going for the next year.
The vault is open the day you join.
Every coaching video is available to you immediately. Watch them in order if that is how your brain likes it, or go straight to the one that matches the week you are having.
You can watch the same video in March and hear something you did not hear in September.
Labs with Tyler.
Bring the actual thing that happened. The text you did not know how to answer, the grade that just posted, the conversation that went sideways.
You get coached on it in real time, in a room of parents who already understand it.
You set the pace.
There is no schedule to fall behind on. Some months you will be in every lab, and some months you will watch one video at a red light.
Both count. That is what a year is for.
Every Masterclass in your year, as Platinum.
For as long as you are in SOMA, every Navigating ADHD Masterclass we run is yours as Platinum. Platinum is the tier where you bring your real questions and get coached on your home, your child, your situation, by name.
In their own words.
What parents said about their experience with Tyler coaching them.
When you said that paying for them to fail may be the best investment.
I had to help them figure out many things. That they couldn’t do it themselves.
It’s ok everything is falling apart. Mastery is born out of the chaos.
One year. One price.
- Three live labs with Tyler every month, all year
- Full access to the SOMA video library from the day you join
- New coaching videos added throughout the year
- Platinum access to every Navigating ADHD Masterclass held during your year
- A room of parents who are further down the same road
I need to tell you something about the word belayer.
They’re stepping back, but they’re also a steady presence where the rock climber trusts if they fall, they’re not going to come crashing to the ground.
That’s not a personality trait some parents have and others don’t. It’s a skill, and it can be taught.
I am 34 years old. I have four kids. I still call my mom. I still call my dad. I still call my in-laws. Your student being independent was never supposed to mean you disappear.
I am standing with a rag on the other side of that glass door, so you can make a change in your life.
You’re still mom. SOMA is where you learn how to stay that, for the long haul.
TylerYou have questions.
Here are the answers.
Why is this for the parent, and not for my student directly?
Because you are the one who is there. You are there at breakfast, in the car, and at nine at night when something falls apart.
A coach gets an hour a week. You get all the rest of it, which makes you the highest leverage person in your student’s life by a wide margin.
SOMA does not replace your student’s coach or their therapist. SOMA equips the person who is already in the house.
What if my student does not want any part of this?
That is completely fine, and it is far more common than you would think. SOMA never asks your student to show up, log in, or agree to anything.
You are the one doing the work here. What changes is how you respond, what you say when it gets hard, and what you do when they are not okay.
Plenty of students notice the difference at home long before they know anything changed.
Can I join in the middle of the year?
Yes. You can start the moment you join, and your year begins that day.
Your year begins the day you join. The video library opens immediately, and you are in the very next lab on the calendar.
What happens if I miss a lab this month?
There is always another one. Three labs happen every month, every month of the year.
SOMA is not built on catching up. SOMA is built on coming back.
How is this different from one-on-one coaching?
One-on-one coaching puts a coach directly with your student, week after week, building their systems and their habits with them. SOMA works on you.
The two are not competing. Many SOMA parents have a student in coaching at the same time, and that is exactly when things move fastest.
If you are not sure which one fits your family right now, book a free consultation and we will tell you honestly.
Do I need my spouse or co-parent involved too?
No. One parent in SOMA is enough to change the temperature of a whole house, and plenty of parents join on their own.
If your co-parent does want in, that is even better. Two people running the same playbook will always move faster than one.
